For many a man, sex is a situation in which much pressure is placed upon oneself to not only perform well, but to perform LONGER. Lasting longer in bed is not a subject that should bring about shame and ridicule; it’s a subject that we men need to tackle head on….
Big disclaimer here – I’m not a sexual expert. However, I am a man that has seen his share of ups and downs in the bedroom. I have learned some things when it comes to sex and I feel it is my obligation to share them with all of you.
The first thing we men need to do in order to last longer in bed is ENJOY having sex. I can’t stress this enough. Sex is not a job. It should not be treated as and looked upon as one and it definitely should not bring about the same type of feelings a dreaded job does. Get it in your mind right now that you are gonna enjoy having sex with your partner. This is where the battle begins and is usually lost. You see, many men feel so much pressure just to perform that they ultimately over stimulate their mind and that usually causes them to prematurely ejaculate. Well, that obviously isn’t gonna work well when trying to last longer in bed.
Another trick to lasting longer in bed is to take your time. Fella’s, this is not a sprint, it’s a marathon and you should treat it that way. Remember, women take longer to reach climax….some longer than others. Do this, make a commitment to bring you partner to at least one climax before you orgasm. I promise you, this will pay huge dividends in lasting longer in bed and maybe lasting longer in the relationship….if there is one.
Finally, and maybe the most challenging, don’t be lazy when having sex. You want to last longer in bed?? Try having intercourse in multiple positions. This will cause your mind and heart rate to slow down. You will be surprised at how helpful this can be when trying to last longer in bed. Make a commitment to having intercourse in four different positions. I don’t care if you spend 45 seconds per position. If your do the math, 45 seconds in four positions with 15 seconds for change and kissing, you’ve already gotten yourself nearly 4 whole minutes and pure intercourse bliss!
So here is the recap, lasting longer in bed is a mind game. You need to get it in your head that enjoy sex and not be stressed out about it like you would a dreaded job. Take your time; this is a marathon, not a sprint. Make your partner climax before you do!! Don’t be lazy!! Use multiple positions when having intercourse and use the changing of positions to kiss and touch your partner.
I want to close with this….Have a plan in your mind developed beforehand. It is okay think about how you’re gonna please your partner. Remember, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.